On one particular “girl nights” this past summer I played one of those question games where you get to know people better. Things like, “If you were a unicorn what would you do?” or “If we were all in a fire who would be best equipped to handle the exit strategy?” All of these questions were really funny but the answers made them even funnier! This little game however led my husband and I to use one of the questions in a very different capacity.
As most of you know, we speak, write and encourage couples on relationship success, lifestyle, and high performance living. One of the questions on that specific night loaned itself to some incredible insight.
“If you could make one legal thing no longer legal what would it be?”
The answers on the night of that ladies trip were broad and humorous. What was interesting was that this particular question sat in my mind for a while. It kept coming back up for me but in totally different ways. It caused me to think further and more profoundly on the matter of what we choose to allow to dictate space and ideas as ok in our lives.
The thought that I kept coming back to was, what we allow to be “legal” in our lives that shouldn’t be. Things we absorb and the things we deem ok. These ideas and concepts that for whatever reason we just take as fact and acceptable. They are not good, right, or beneficial in any way. Things and phrases like “marriage is hard,” verbal assault under the blanket of “constructive feedback,” violence in any form, hate, malnutrition. All of these things are things we should deem “No Longer Legal.”
When I rattle off this list most of us would say we would love to have all of those things eradicated from our lives. Yet, personally we malnourish ourselves all the time, we hate any and every single opinion that is different from our own, and we orally assault ourselves with negativity that we would never ever let anyone else say.
So I ask again, What legal thing should you make no longer legal in your life? Not in any way should you accept this, not from others or from your self. Choose to say enough.
- verbal assault
- negative venting
- substance medicating
- unhealthy thoughts that don’t serve you
- negative feedback
None of these things are loving. And like Carrie Underwood says: “We believe that in the end love wins!”
Creating Exceptional standards for what we are going to allow in our lives will help us to live more fully! So what standards are you making for yourself and for your relationships?