Overcoming your Disabilities

Overcoming your Disabilities


We all live in suspense, from day-to-day, from hour-to hour; in other words, we are the hero of our own story.  -Mark McCarthy 

For those of you who have never met me in person you may not know that I was born with a “disadvantage” (or at least most people in society would assume this). I would never be able to be in professional pictures or modeling, I would never be on broadway in a really important role (despite my talents), I could never cross the monkey bars, and I would have to learn how to button shirts, breastfeed my children, and open jars in a different way. My left hand has no bone or fingers past the first knuckles.

Despite this, most people I first meet never notice. My parents never treated it as a disadvantage or disability, and I learned to tie my shoes, and even play the piano at the age’s everyone else did.

College papers were tedious work on a computer, and some people were out right cruel as I grew up, but there are a few lessons I learned as I grew to appreciate how I was made and born.

One: We are all unique and I showed many people the beauty of individuality and how it can become a launching pad for you to grow as a person.

Two: Never let someone else tell you what you can and can’t do. I still tried modeling, I was a top-dancer for a prestigious company in the south, and taught classes for the next generation of on stage performing artists. Someone told me I would never be able to play the piano….next day I was in lessons. My favorite piece to play? Ludwig Van Beethovan’s “Fur Elise”.

Three: Use it for your advantage. So many people use health, and disabilities to keep them from trying or doing things. I decided on a different tactic. I believe when we are faced with challenges and rise to the actions we create a better version of ourselves. Even better than if we had been born “normal”. If I did not have these challenges I would have never taken piano lessons or started a blog (typing still is beyond a tedious task).

Would I have chosen this for my life? Do I want my kids to have other kids look at them and ask questions about why their mom is “that way”? Would I have been in the professional ballet world more? The answer to all of these questions is… “no”. I wouldn’t have chosen it but it has made me a stronger and better person. Overcoming some simple tasks and some even harder ones has created who I am today.

My question for you today is what is holding you back? What are you using as an excuse for why you can’t do something?

David Ring, another person who was considered “handicapped”, came to my church as a young kid and shared his own personal story of incredible odds. He was born with cerebral palsy. On top of this, his mother died when he was just a kid. He was tossed to different foster families and eventually raised by his older sister. He was so depressed that he one day attempted suicide. But his sister took him to church and for the first time, he heard the gospel. He surrendered his life to Christ. He told his pastor in his very difficult to understand speech, “Pastor, I want to be a preacher.” Overcoming all of this he is an evangelist with a beautiful and unbelievable outreach. His life quote is “whats your problem?” He has personal touched thousands of individuals with the gospel and with what people can do with God.

God can and does use everyone who is willing. And in beautiful ways. I pray that is my story.

*previously posted 4/2015

One simple rule to never stop learning

One simple rule to never stop learning


School seemed to be the thing I just powered through. It was not what I loved, in the least. Some people would say I kinda hated it. And I was in the posh setting of homeschool! Homemaking classes, art appreciation, and literature were fascinating  – sometimes. I loved to read but not school read. Text books are just not enjoyable in my book. Cough this all up and you would think I have never stretched myself to learn anything else after high school (since college is a choice).

I may not like school but I believe in personal growth, education, and the philosophy to always learn. Because of that I went to college, and I have taken courses in time management, coaching, health, foreign languages, personal trainer certifications, tax law, writing a book, and even flight school.

Never stop growing, never give up, always be willing to change and improve. Reading is and always will be the biggest and greatest asset you ever do for yourself. It is the key to improvement. It is the very rule to never stop learning.

For your pleasure here are a few reading lists:

The Summer list: (Titles only)

Animal vegetable miracle

cold tangerines

Write it out

Bird by bird

The Road Back to You

The Power of a Praying Parent


My Favorite children’s books:

The Tale of Annabelle Hedgehog

Anne of Green Gables

Lion, The Witch and Wardrobe

Winnie the Pooh

Little House in The Big Woods

The Boxcar Children

Little Women


My re-read List:

*I am not a re-reader very often but I pick up these regularly:

Moms on Call Toddler Book


Along Came Jones

Christy Miller series


The book I always give away:

Bread and Wine

My secret reads:

*These are the books I hide from public knowledge (usually) cause they embarrass. I love them so much and I am not a 12-year-old teen anymore. I literally will stay up till early morning hours to finish these utopian titles:

Red Queen

Frost Bloods


The Maze Runner

City of Bones

The Lunar Chronicles

If you read and you read well – you can be someone with great knowledge, education, and imagination. I am grateful for people who take time to write. Thank you. I love to read, and to learn this way. I am grateful for the people who encouraged me and continue to encourage the next generations to love reading.

I would say most of the credit for my reading should go to my Mema Hoffler. She is known for this philosophy of learning through books. She was the church librarian when I was growing up. She does this by example so well! Because of it, My mother reads, I read, and my children already love to read. Thank you.

It is what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it. – Oscar Wilde