My Vow

My Vow

10 years ago this May I pledged my life to the man of my dreams and my very soul’s heartbeat. He is a pure gift. He makes me the best version of myself and He is perfect for me. He is the part of my story where I receive an earthly example of God’s incredible favor. He is the sand to my beach. I am blessed to call him “husband” but even more blessed to call him my best friend. We have so much fun together!

Today I wanted to share the Vow I am memorizing to repeat to him this year – and every year. We hope to do this publicly in a few years time when we do a formal renewing of our marriage but until then here it is:

 

The Vow
Today I, Kate, renew my marriage vows in the presence of God, in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and in the standing power of the Holy Spirit.

Stephen,

You and I have a treasured relationship which I view as a gift from God. I will accept you in your uniqueness; respect you in your differences from me; allow you room for individual expression; seek to understand and meet your needs; refrain from being overbearing and demanding; grant you the freedom to fail; forgive you. For your errors; restore you when you stumble; bear your burdens when you cannot carry them alone; give thanks daily for you and pray for you; provide for your needs within my means; encourage the realization of your full potential; remind you often through word and deed that you are the most important person in the world to me.

I renew my vow of commitment to you to have and to had from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till us do part according to God’s holy sacrament; and thereto, I pledge you my faith.

 

We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves. -Edgar Cayce

Calm, Confident, and Energetic

Calm, Confident, and Energetic

I love being a person of zeal. I am known for it. It was actually a spiritual gift on a test in high school I took ….A Zealot. I had it as one of my number one traits. For anyone who doesn’t know…

ZEAL : fever for a person, cause, or object; eager desire or endeavor; enthusiastic diligence; ardor.

examples of zeal: enthusiasm, ardor, diligence, devotion, eagerness, fierceness.

I am fierce! I also love to be that person that has it together, is cool, calm, and collected. Totally confident in who she is and what she is about. Fierce! Loving life to the fullest. A bit dramatic and brimming with joy .. most of the time its caffeine I’m brimming with but who’s looking?

I also read that the very thing your good at can also be your Achilles heel. Trying to be enthusiastic and confident and put together all the time can make you tired. It can make you question yourself (which isn’t confidence). It can make you want to scream (which isn’t calm and collected, or positive in any way, shape, or form. And this is where I have found myself recently. I am tired. I want simple, organized, and the opportunity to say no to being “bubbly”. Why must I always be the cheerleader?

I want to give myself a break and change some things around. I must rest.

I came off of vacation this last week and it was wonderful! I didn’t do laundry, we ate out half the time, and I soaked up sunshine and reading every afternoon. I watched a storm blow through one night sitting on the front porch snuggling with my son while my daughter wedged herself closer to my side. I rested. It was bliss.

As a mom, lifestyle coach, writer and wife in order to do this thing right, I must find simplicity, and peace, and space. Space to sleep, to read a good book, to exercise, to go sit in a lawn chair in the sun, to journal for more than five minutes. When was the last time you gave yourself the chance to do these things? When was the last time you drank a whole cup of coffee in one sitting? I am here to help – and only because I am working on these thing myself!

Kate’s Top things to help simplify life:

Follow a study guide for your morning scriptures

Set monthly goals

Carry a water bottle with you

Use the crock pot more

Un-subscribe to emails

Get a purse organizer

Plan your workouts

Listen to a fantastic podcast

Write to-do list’s before your week starts

Cut out tv for a while

De-clutter the closets

Do things slowly when you can

Give yourself the space to drink your morning coffee, (in the morning)!

 

“Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify.” ― Henry David Thoreau, Walden and Other Writings