The New Year. Everyone is about resolutions and setting new goals. It’s fun to reflect back on the previous year to see what you did great and what needs improvement. I used to be someone who would make mental notes of what I wanted to achieve but never took the time to put them on paper. My wife and a trusted mentor called me out almost immediately on it… and they are right. Studies show that when goals are written down you are far more likely to achieve them.
I came across an article a while ago about the global phenom and highly successful golfer, Rory McIlroy. Brian Wacker published an article on PGATOUR.com talking about the top goals he thinks Rory should have based on is talent and momentum from 2014. Rory is apparently an avid goal setter and has a standard procedure every year:
“McIlroy, who will open his PGA TOUR season at The Honda Classic next month and is in the field this week in Abu Dhabi, has carried a boarding pass with a set of goals written on it each year of his career.
‘I put it in my wallet and I memorize them,’ McIlroy said. ‘I don’t really want to share them with anyone else. They are just my little goals, and I’ll try and achieve those, and I’ll take that boarding pass out at the end of the year and see how well I’ve done.’”
Wow – how simple can it get? There is no magic formula here other than mental consistency. By knowing where you want to go you will be less likely to detour and waste precious time and energy. By keeping your goals top of mind you are in essence staying accountable to yourself in the areas that matter most to you personally.
Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” I encourage you to find someone you think is successful – someone you admire and respect – and ask them to an early morning coffee (most movers and shakers are early risers) to see what habits they’ve developed to get them where they are today. I would venture to guess that one of their habits is writing goals down. So what are you going to do this year? I’d challenge you to step out of the box and write down a few goals on an index card, business card, stick-it note, or even a boarding pass. Carry it with you and look at it often. Memorize it. Stay focused on it. Be careful, you just might achieve it.
Kate’s Thoughts on the Matter of Goals:
What a great privilege you have. You get to be a part of a great story. Knowing what God’s vision is for your life and relationship is a cornerstone for thriving. It is very hard to get bored when you have God’s vision in front of you.
After Steve told me this story and being a person of goals myself, we created a vision statement and then we created one year goals. We had a mentor tell us to make five-year goals as well. We loved this so much. This is one of the greatest habits for keeping routine from sabotaging your romance — vision and goals. We made 10 year goals and a life goals list. We have a “date night list” and a “places to visit list”. We are regularly talking about how we can spice things up, add, change, or even eliminate things if they no longer serve us.
If you never want to get bored in your romantic relationship than may you always see growth, potential, and God’s plan in your love life! May you be empowered to step up and to identify where you can dream bigger and go further. Where you can create energy, commitment, and joy for all you walk through as a team. That, my dear friends, will keep boredom at bay.